Bossy! Magazine Issue 5 April 2015 | Page 14

Now this may be a bit unorthodox, but Fight for the Relationship if you truly love him. Most folks would probably think picking up the pieces of a broken relationship only involves separation. Well, only if separation is the mutual decision. Of course, the fight has to expire if there is no reciprocation. But if you can make a change or an adjustment to save your relationship, why not?

If the 'fight' to save your relationship doesn't work, and it is truly over, then sever communication. Don't play with this a little bit. You're in a a vulnerable state. You don't want to say something that you will regret, or speak out of emotion. Allow your feelings to run the gamut. It is called a "process" for a reason. Sever communication so you can process unclouded, with no filter. The only advice you need to hear is your own. Speaking to him could blur your judgment at a time when you need clarity the most.

"Can You Handle the Truth?"

Don't date. Don't think about dating. Don't talk about dating. When I was younger, I used to believe, "the best way to get over the ex, is by getting under the next." We've all heard that phrase. But if you have experienced real love and by default, real heartbreak, moving on with someone else too quickly is not the exit ramp you want to take. Again. Process.

Lastly, be thankful for the truth. There is a bright side to hearing the truth. The truth really does make you free. If your man doesn't love you, would you want to be with him? If your man cheated, wouldn't you want to know? The truth gives us power, the power to choose. When you have the truth, you have to then take that and make things happen. Without the truth, things are just happening TO you. You are not in control. Believe it or not, having that truth in hand, is the best weapon for the fight.

Jack Nickleson once said "You can't handle the truth?" A powerful line delivered by a great actor. But the power of the truth is very real...no acting. When the truth comes your way, take a deep breath, allow yourself to process. Get to that place where you can say, "I'm glad he told me."