Bossy! Magazine Issue 24 November 2018 | Page 21

lessons. This time with the right woman by his side. My view, if you can’t ride with me when I am down, please don’t look to ride with me when I am back up. Look at the fairytales, there is not one that had “true love” that didn’t go through difficulties and struggles to get there. Beauty and the Beast, the beast had to live under a curse that turned him from a handsome prince into a beast. Only true love was able to undo the years of pain and torment of having to live as a beast, because the beast is not who he truly was. But in order for Beauty to love him, she had to get to know him and see past the beast. After he went through all of that a woman’s love came along and healed him and loved him back to life and health! Sleeping Beauty, a curse was spoken over her life as a baby. She was hidden away for the first sixteen years of her life. She had to experience the pain of pricking her finger and falling into a coma. After she went through all of that Prince Charming came along and love saved her! Yes, he saved her, but it could well be the other way around. Snow White, she had an evil stepmother that was jealous of her. She had to run away and lived with SEVEN men. She was poisoned and fell into a coma. After she went through all of that Prince Charming came along and love saved her! Yes, he saved her, but again, it could well be the other way around. Cinderella, her father died. She was left with a stepmother and stepsisters who treated her like a slave for years. After she went through all of that Prince Charming came along and saved her! Yes, he saved her, but it could well be the other way around. Princess Fiona in Shrek, she was only able to be her true self at night behind closed doors. But the “real man” loved her in her ogre state. Not the beautifully made up princess, but for who she truly was. She was loved for her not for the false perception. She was at her happiest when she was an Ogre and miserable when she had to fake it as the Princess. The Frog, it wasn’t until a woman looked past the frog state and kissed him that he became a Prince. You see where I am going with this? Men and women, come with a past and many times it is how they are treated after they have been hurt, divorced, etc. that could set the trajectory for how they love for the rest of their lives. My point “real men” or “the man God has for you” will come with scars some of them come maimed and limping. Don’t overlook a “real man” because of a smoke screen put up by social media, that “a real man” is perfect. He may not have a white horse, he may have a bike, riding the bus or he may even be walking. He may not own a house as he left it in the divorce or he left the children with their