Are You Ready For Your Fairytale?
By Alison De Souza
So, I have read numerous posts that say, “a real man would do this”, or “a real man would do that”, and
“a real man would have his stuff together.” Or I have read, “The man God has for you will be this”, and
“the Man God has for you will be that”, and “have all his stuff together, be your peace,” blah, blah, blah,
blah!
But just supposing the man God has for you is a man that has been through a horrible divorce, who has
been mentally broken, and had his heart ripped out of his chest. Because, let’s face it some women are
broken and in turn hurt the “good/real” men because of their brokenness. Yes, the same goes for some
broken men.
I have heard many horror stories where men, good men, have been treated so badly by their ex-wives,
wives, ex-girlfriends, girlfriends, the mother of their child or children or by women in general that it has
left them so disillusioned with love and relationships. They are afraid to put their hearts back out there.
But it doesn’t make them any less a “real man” or a “man of God.” In my opinion, it makes them more of
a real man as they have experienced life!
We have the erroneous thinking, that it is women that get the short straw when it comes to heartache,
because all men are dogs right? WRONG! We couldn’t be more wrong. Our men are hurting and dying
because we have romantized what a real man is thanks to social media and #relationshipgoals. But a real
man is the man that has been hurt, had his heart broken, taken a beating from life and still gets up each
day to try to face life. Albeit, emotionally shut down.
The older we get the higher the likelihood that life will happen to us and we will be hurt, we will experience
heartache, betrayal and possibly even humiliation. And that can defeat even the best of us. What if the
man God has for you is your assignment to Love the hurt away and to love him back to emotional health?
In some cases, it could literally be love him back to life.
With all the “real man/ man God has for you” talk floating around,
so many are missing out on seeing good, real honest,
hardworking men because they are looking through rose-colored
glasses for the fairytale. They are expecting prince charming to
come swooping in on the white horse, buff to the max (nothing
wrong with that, as that is how I like my men
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financially secure, good job and have a heart of gold. Supposing
he had all of that and life, divorce, bad investments happened,
incarceration had left him depleted? And now he more looks like
a man with scars and war wounds. Would you still overlook him?
Because if he loved once, chances are he is able to love again. If
he was financially secure etc. chances are he can get back on his
feet again and be even more successful having learnt valuable life