Bossy! Magazine Issue 20 September/October 2017 | Page 30

How often do we say or hear our girlfriends say, "he has been this way since the day I met him", or "I know him. He is never going to change"? And then we watch them say I do or move in together with no hesitation. And that's ok. Coach Green didn't tell the team to never take the field again. He just implored that knowing who they were should have given them an advantage in the game.

Another great Coach, Herm Edwards, said, "..you play to win the game. It's ok if you don't win, but you play to win the game; you don't just play to play." What is the point of all that time, energy, literal blood, sweat, and tears if you are not going to do everything possible to win the game?

Why be in a relationship and not do everything possible to make it successful? So many of us are guilty of self-sabotaging our own happiness. We don't fully forgive. We don't fully heal. We don't fully feel safe. We don't feel loved. Yet we try to maneuver a relationship; a magnetic mechanism that requires just those things: safety, healing, forgiveness, and love. We don't play to win the game, yet suit up and go on the relationship field faithfully and unprepared.

So ladies the CSA says all that to say this, you know who that man is and found a reason to choose him anyway. Hold on to that as inspiration to put those things you learned in practice into practice. Remember, you play to win the game.

Next CSA: Nick Saba, "When you're Arrogant you become complacent, and that creates a blatant disregard for doing things right."