Most times we create our own pain by trying to fit a square peg into a round hole. Sometimes we are not honest with ourselves. What I mean by this is, sometimes the timing is just not right or sometimes we just pick the wrong one to love. We give all of our love to a person who is not worthy, deserving and or incapable of loving us the way we need to be loved. Thereby developing a relationship that is doomed from the very beginning. There are clues, albeit subtle, but clues nonetheless. Teach yourself to see the subtle clues.
* Seemingly distant
* No solid commitment
* No claiming you (no title)
* Conversing in detail about the future is somewhat vague
* The feeling you get that something is just not right
* Taking more than giving or giving the bare minimum, not material emotionally
Broken hearts need patching. Clearly we cannot actually reach into our chests and patch the hole where the pain resides. The patching comes through redirecting your thoughts and your actions. Focus on self. Not to say you ignore the pain, you must acknowledge the pain and understand how the pain came to be. Patching the pain is where the growth lives. Patch by rediscovering yourself. Do what gives you joy, personal joy. Get a massage or buy the expensive shoes. Treat yourself the way you want to be treated always. Most of all continue to trust God through your pain.
Forgive the breaker and the breakee (if you will) as well as the situation. Carrying baggage into the next relationship is a recipe for disaster. We can’t be afraid to be vulnerable and trust again. Nor can one be bitter. There is no growth in bitterness.
Moving on know what you want out of a relationship and be clear from the very beginning. Be ready to love again.
I still believe in love!