One monogamous dater I know said, "how can you truly get to know me if you are trying to get to know 5 other different women at the same time?" For this type of dater to be successful, their Choice of who they date is very important. The monogamous dater has high expectations for the interaction of dating. Because of that, the monogamous dater and the serial dater should not grab coffee together. The serial dater has very low expectations for dating interactions. They expect fun for the moment at that moment, not beyond. The serial dater confuses the monogamous dater's mind. The monogamous dater often misinterprets the time spent and the good time had as making a connection. When truly, the serial dater is just making the most of the moment. The monogamous dater really needs to find another monogamous dater; it's always good to be on the same page, and seeking the same thing as the person you are dating. If not another monogamous dater, then a concurrent dater is not too bad either.
The CSA says all that to say this: "know who you are before getting to know anyone else. That's fair to you and them".