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During this process of being a mess and in the valley, I rediscovered a few things about myself:
1. There are authentic people who genuinely care about your well-being.
2. Divorces are tough but it make you a much more humble, tougher and loving person.
3. Crying cleanses the soul
4. I love myself and I refuse to compromise who I am
5. I learned that I am not a victim but a victor.
Here are five ways to overcome a 'Hot Mess' Situation:
1. Don't beat yourself up, beating yourself will only make you feel worst. Stop trying to be strong all the time. Stop overanalyzing the situation because it is done. Just stop, be still and show an attitude of gratitude. Things can be a lot worst.
2. Never isolate yourself from people who are willing to support you. If you have family, friends or coworkers that are authentic and willing to love you within your hot mess situation, that's a beautiful thing. Let them love up on you.
3. Cry! Some people have a difficult crying because of past remarks of crying equates to weakness. Crying is apart of our healing process. Crying is a healing agent. It help us to cleanse our essence and clear out the negative energy. It also help us to release the pain. Stop suppressing the negative emotions and just cry.
4. Serve others. I started mentoring before my divorce, in the midst of my divorce and after my divorce. Mentoring helped me to serve others who were facing difficulties. Mentoring helped me to realize my unknown strength. Serving others during a difficult time, is a humbling experience because you are providing a selfless act of serving.