Speaking of his roommate, I was dating him also. But hear me out! We’ll call the roommate Jerry. I started dating Jerry a couple of months into me dating Tom. Long story short I was at their home one morning after Tom had already left for work. He’d leave super early and a lot of times he’d just let me sleep in until I was ready to leave on my own. This particular morning I crossed paths with Jerry and we just engaged in conversation, not different from many other times that I would see him at the house.