Weight loss surgery can have a significant effect on family and
friends. When someone you care about is going to have weight-
loss surgery, there are many things you can do to support them
throughout this process.
Become involved, and learn about the operation
• Learning how the operation will affect your loved one can help
you to understand, and offer support to them. Join them at
appointments and support groups, and research information
together.
Advice for family / whanau and friends:
Be prepared to make life changes yourself
• This may include joining your family member in exercise - go for
a walk, bike ride, or swim. Join a gym, or take an exercise class
together. You might choose to start new eating habits together.
Making lifestyle changes can benefit the whole family, leading to
a better quality of life, and improved health.
Respect your loved one’s new eating habits.
• Ensure the fridge and pantry contains only healthy food options.
Don’t accidentally sabotage their efforts, by giving them a box
of chocolates as a gift, or by tempting them with food (“a little bit
won’t hurt you”). Encourage them to stop eating when they say
they are full.
Celebrate in different ways.
• People celebrate and socialise with food. Talk about other ways
to show your loved one you care, that don’t centre on food.
What they would like as a gift to help them celebrate? Plan
other events, such as enjoying family activities together, travel,
starting new projects around the home, or learning a new hobby.
Be aware that the relationship may change.
• Significant changes in weight can affect people’s energy levels,
self-esteem, confidence, and motivation, opening doors to a new
lifestyle. Change can be unsettling however, and this can create
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