THEY HAVE INTEGRITY .
People with high integrity are irresistible because they walk their talk , plain and simple . Integrity is a simple concept but a difficult thing to practice . To demonstrate integrity every day , irresistible people follow through , they avoid talking bad about other people , and they do the right thing , even when it hurts .
THEY DON ’ T TRY TOO HARD .
Irresistible people don ’ t dominate the conversation with stories about how smart and successful they are . It ’ s not that they ’ re resisting the urge to brag . The thought doesn ’ t even occur to them because they know how unlikeable people are who try too hard to get others to like them .
THEY SMILE .
People naturally ( and unconsciously ) mirror the body language of the person they ’ re talking to . If you want people to find you irresistible , smile at them during conversations and they will unconsciously return the favor and feel good as a result .
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THEY MAKE AN EFFORT TO LOOK THEIR BEST ( JUST NOT TOO MUCH OF AN EFFORT ).
There ’ s a massive difference between being presentable and being vain . Irresistible people understand that making an effort to look your best is comparable to cleaning your house before company comes — it ’ s a sign of respect for others . But once they ’ ve made themselves presentable , they stop thinking about it .
THEY RECOGNIZE THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN FACT AND OPINION .
Irresistible people handle controversial topics and touchy subjects with grace and poise . They don ’ t shrink from sharing their opinions , but they make it clear that they ’ re opinions , not facts . Whether discussing global warming , politics , vaccine schedules , or GMO foods , irresistible people recognize that many people who are just as intelligent as they are see things differently .
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BRINGING IT ALL TOGETHER
Irresistible people did not have fairy godmothers hovering over their cribs . They ’ ve simply perfected certain appealing qualities and habits that anyone can adopt as their own .
They think about other people more than they think about themselves , and they make other people feel liked , respected , understood , and seen . Just remember : the more you focus on others , the more irresistible you ’ ll be .
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