Blink Lifestyles
RELATIONSHIPS
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hen your heart is broken, there's
an opening, a small space for the
light to get through.
‘To date, there has been nothing in my life
that caused me more pain than when I had
my heart broken by someone that I loved.
The day he came to my home and told me
that although he “loved me, but he wasn't
in love with me” sent me spiraling for
months with many Sunday afternoons
curled up on the sofa in tears.
But now I know why he left me.’
-unknown
Reason #1: The Pleasure
Principle
According to Christian, people want to surround
themselves with people that they feel good around
and generally feel good in their lives. When you are
constantly freaking out on a man for what it is about
him that freaks you out, you quickly turn into one of
the people that it DOESN'T FEEL GOOD to be
around. And this has a huge impact on whether or not
he wants to invest more time, effort, and energy in you
and your relationship. Or if he will decide to give up
on trying to fix what 's going on with you so you can
both feel good together.
Reason #2: Emotional
Experience And The Future
I actually laughed rather loudly when I read this
reason which I have published in full. “For a man in a
relationship, the ways a woman acts in the “little”
situations become indicators of how she's going to
respond when things really are tough and in the
future. So if a woman is consistently negative and
emotional… and can't get herself together even when
a man tries to explain things and comfort her… then
a man isn't going to think that things could be any
better in the future together.”
Reason #3: Lost Feelings of
Attraction
Attraction is important in a relationship and this should
be a mixture of emotional and physical, however let's
not confuse this with expecting to have constant
fireworks. What keeps a relationship going, what real
love is driven by is a mutual attraction, trust, respect and
shared goals and interests. To read this reason of
Christian's answers the question for men as to why they
are 'misunderstood.
Reason #4:The Neediness of
Codependence
A man wants to be with a woman that brings something
better to his life, not take away his time, energy, and
emotional “stability”.
So when a woman doesn't have much going on for
herself in her own life a few things happen. First, she
focuses on her relationship too much as her source of
happiness or unhappiness.
Reason #5: She is Trying To Fix Me
One of my major relationship pet peeves is when we try
treat our partners like fixer uppers, focusing on the
potential rather than the reality.
“A man can and will “change” and compromise for a
woman.
It's a fact. I see it all the time where men let go of their
“bachelor lifestyles” for one special woman, and change
a ton about their social lives.
But this only happens when a man has HIS OWN
REASONS to change.
It NEVER works, or lasts, if a man simply tries to change
for a woman, or for the sake of the relationship.”
Blink Digital Magazine Jan/Feb Issue No.2
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