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By Cordelia Khosi

G I R L SXB O Y S
WHO DATE GUYS 4MONEY

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hat is "dating"? Dating
is being in an intimate
relationship. But this
part of intimacy has been
challenged and viewed only as
being sexually active, which is
not entirely true because
intimacy is not just sex or lovemaking but it is also about
emotional attachment and love.
It is the ability to share in your
partner's experiences and
feelings. But only a few see it
this way, many has made it a
"thing" of getting sex and
money and somehow love in
this sense has been valued as
less .
Dating during the ages has
been used as a way to get to
know someone you love and to
be in a deeper closeness with
them. It was done with pure
intentions of love and care and
to be with the person and them
with you. But in this day and
age it's mostly not about love
and what you can give each
other in the o called name of
love.

WHO DATE GIRLS 4SEX

The only time couples fight nowadays
is because she is not in the mood and
he doesn't want to chip out money
for those Nike sneakers. This cannot
be love, it cannot even be like, it is
purely a transaction.You give "this"
and you get "that" and if you don't
then forget. It is better to just clarify
from the start that you are not in it
for love but just for material things
and sex, it's really not that hard. It is
better than to lie just to get money.

Why is this done?

The first time you meet someone you
want to impress them so they stay
with you or keep coming back. So on
the first date you might take her to a
very expensive restaurant or a hip
club and once you get your goodnight
kiss your desire for her grows
stronger you just want her naked on
your bed.
Many girls cannot afford to buy
certain things themselves because
they are either still at school, peer
pressure or are unemployed and have
no way of getting money. So they
decide to use their most valuable
asset to get what they want. Who
wants to be left behind with all these
clubs around town, the latest fashion
and trends? And guys, well, they think
they can flash money round and get
whichever girls they want of which
they do.

Can we say this is done purely out of
disrespect of self, values and morals?
But this affects girls more than it
does guys. Girls will find themselves
being called names while guys get to
be sung praises. I think that most
guys who do this have a very low
self-esteem and use this is a way to
gain cred.
Society says live how you want to
live and do what pleases you then
they turn around and judge you. They
call you names , say you don't have
morals and use you as an example to
others.

What to do now?

Our girls need to be taught to have
pride in themselves and know that
they are worth more than being used
by men and that if they work hard at
improving their lives they will soon
afford all these things and they will
feel happy that they got there
without depending on men.
Our guys need to be taught that
women are not objects and they
should be treated with high respect
and love no matter who they are or
what they have.
What you do is really none of our
business but that doesn't mean you
should devalue yourself and treat
yourself as less than others because
you lack certain things. Just because
you do not have it now doesn't mean
you will never get it.
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