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Spiritually Speaking
" Finding and Giving Love " A Reflection by an Encore Groom
Rev . David K . North
I was so convinced , so certain , so sure that it was true love , everlasting love . This one was absolutely THE ONE for me . Destiny had unfolded , and I was beginning MY " happily ever after ."
But then the honeymoon period was over , and infatuations began to fade . Oh how I wish I ' d seen or perceived THAT side of them before we ' d gotten married . How could I have been so naive ?
I tried my best to make it work ; I ' m not a quitter ; I don ' t want to be another divorce statistic . But the deal-breaker broke .
Irreconcilable differences . I ' ve heard it said , " It ' s better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all ." YEAH , RIGHT ! This hurt really bad . I can ' t imagine opening myself to this kind of risk again .
Now I ' m more wary and wiser ; more cautious with my emotions . Burn me once , shame on you ; burn me twice , shame on me .
But still , feelings of loneliness arise . It ' s a long struggle learning to be content with self . I ' ve always believed that there is somebody for everybody ; is there someone out there for me ?
Thank goodness , time truly does heal . Truly , weeping endures only for a night , and joy does come in the morning . God does hear and answer prayers . Enjoyment with wholesome company comes , laughter with
comfortable , non-pretentious friends returns . I ' m finding others to be fully myself with , naturally , without judgment , criticism , or ridicule . Then , gradually , among the acquaintances arises a special someone . Someone to laugh with me at my mistakes , support me with my aspirations , cry with me during times of sorrow , challenge me with alternative perspectives , someone to practice mutual respect .
A friend , A true friend .
This is someone I look forward to seeing often , being with regularly . Enjoy discovering commonalities , discovering the things that make the other happy , seeing their smile , hearing their laughter , making them laugh . Someone who feels the same way about me . Comfortable . Natural . Dare I say , lovable .
This time , quirks are known ; habits and personality are authentically disclosed . Nothing hidden . We seem to truly be compatible and complementary .
God , is this the one ? Shall I risk again ? I can ' t imagine my days , my life , without them in it . I am my best when I ' m with them .
Yes . I ' ve found love again .
Yes . I can love and be loved again .
DKN
Reprinted from Winter 2015
About the author Rev David K North is a well known singer and songwriter and is currently the director of the local award winning community choir , Mosaic Harmony and has been the pastor of MCC Church in College Park for the past 14 years . He has appeared in many local Washington DC stage plays and is the lead singer for House of Jam Band .
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