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5 my son to get his account of a situation because her son came home with a complaint and she knows that children can leave out important information to avoid being held accountable for their own actions. I truly appreciated the step that the parent took in resolving the matter. Apologize! Have your child return to school and apologize to the other student. This can be done with a note or an act of kindness, like sharing something with the other student. Also reach out to the other parents and let them know you are aware of an incident and have talked with your child. This small gesture, lets the other parent know that you do not tolerate certain behaviors and have given consequences. This also opens the lines of communication for that parent to contact you should any other concerns arise. Of course the hope is that there are no more inci- dents, however this has not always been the case with my son. Explore resources available! 7 6 If you have ongoing concerns about your child’s behavior, connect with the school counselor or a commu- nity agency. Perhaps your child may benefit from a social skills groups, counseling or services that help to ensure that consequences, rewards and target behaviors are the same at home and at school. I do not buy into the notion that, “boys will be boys,” or that he will eventually grow out of the behavior. Suppose by middle school he has not and the behaviors have escalated. Any relevant interventions may have less of a positive impact by then. Take advan- tage of the resources available and advocate for your child. interactions with other parents at the school. I felt that teachers pitied us for having to give bad news almost every day. A helpful phrase passed on to me: Tomorrow is another day mommy! I say this phrase aloud to myself and my son sometimes on those not so good days. I have to consciously remember to go home and continue to show him unconditional love, constantly remind him of his positive attributes as well as remind him of the behaviors that are accepted and expected. Parenting is not an easy role and I believe that being less judgmental and more supportive of each other as mothers, fathers and guardians, makes a world of difference to a parent struggling with parenting. We must encourage each other! PREPARING BERMUDA’S YOUTH FOR A BRIGHT FUTURE MSA’s internationally recognised curriculum provides a nurturing and caring environment, while challenging students to excel and reach their full potential. Using an inquiry-based teaching method from Pre-K to Grade 12, students are engaged in a collaborative and interactive approach to learning. Our program promotes skills that help students build on what they are learning, how they think, and what they can achieve, ultimately preparing them for post-secondary education and the working world. Join the MSA family. Stay positive! I know that is easier said than done. I became so concerned about others’ thoughts of me as a parent and their assumptions about our home environ- ment, that I did not look forward to 19 Dundonald Street West, Hamilton | Telephone: 292-4134 Email: [email protected] | Website: www.msa.bm mybermudaparent.com 11