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baby BY ROBYN BARDGETT Coping with Sleep Deprivation Let’s just get the bad news out of the way first: sleep will forever change once you have a baby. Managing infant sleep is important to getting a good night’s sleep ourselves, but it is often a bit of trial and error. A ccording to the La Leche League, infant sleep is different from the way we sleep as adults and is a developmental process that changes over time. So it is completely normal that most newborns will sleep a lot but in shorter two to three hour bursts both day and night. And while they start to normalise their circadian rhythm (the way we differentiate between day and night) it can make nighttime sleep seem elusive. It makes sense considering the fact that most babies in utero sleep during the day – when mothers are moving around rocking their babies to sleep – and tend to be awake at night when we lay down – think about all the little kicks a mother gets when they’re trying to sleep! Not only that, but while we are pregnant our baby is completely taken care of in terms of nutrients by way of the umbilical cord. Once that connection is taken away they are reliant on their parents to give them food. So it’s no wonder that it can take some time before what we consider to be normal sleep begins to take shape. During those long exhausting nights of a waking baby there are some good ways to help cope. It’s not perfect, but gain- ing a bit of perspective and realising that it won’t last forever can help get through those nights of broken sleep. 22 The American Academy of Pediatrics recom- mends that babies are kept close during the first couple of months. Not only has it shown to lower the risk of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS) but this can also make things easier for a nursing mother. Whether in a bassinet, pack and play (some have bassinet features and are great for future use), a co- sleeper or, if you’re comfortable with the idea, having your baby sleep in bed with you. But it’s important to come up with a sleeping arrangement that is comfort- able and safe for the entire family. It certainly won’t look like eight hours of deep sleep, but it means less moving around during the groggy early hours of the morning. If you’re baby has transi- tioned to an expressed bottle of milk or you’re formula feeding, it’s a good idea to work out a schedule of who is on duty so feeding can be shared between you and your partner. This does mean sleeping in separate rooms but can help get a few chunks of nighttime sleep. Once you have sleeping arrangements fig- ured out at night, coping with lack of sleep during the day is also