Who knows what causes us to behave the way we do? Yes, that is a real question. If you have an answer please write me and tell me so we can all be informed. Until then allow me to rant on my confusion.
A man and a woman are in a relationship. The man complains the woman does not understand. The woman complains the man does not understand. Finally after missing one another’s point for months or years; they finally come to an understanding.
Why is it then that one of the people, no matter what scenario you paint, feels the need to bring up what you “used to do?” I thought the idea was to grow? I thought as humans we asked for what we wanted. Once we get what we want/need we move on. When did we become a generation of people that bicker about what they should have had once they have gotten what they originally asked for?
Have you ever asked yourself why you asked such and such for whatever it was you asked?
Once you get exactly what you want, how do you react? Are you too afraid to accept the gesture because you are afraid of past behavior? Or is the real answer you, are so used to the past behavior you are comfortable with it. It is the only thing you know how to react to. Are you afraid to move on to a new point in your relationship or are you like many of us one that flourishes in dysfunction?
When you know what you want before you get to the grocery store you statistically spend less money. Your mind is made up and there is no wavering. You keep more money and your bills are paid on time. There are some who are good at knowing what they want. Still, some know but it changes as they get it. They always want more. You have to be with someone that is as ambitious (or non-ambitions) as you are or you too will end up angry.
Finally, we must examine the one who is never satisfied. Is that one the smartest or the least smart? Is it better to keep striving or to settle? Is it better to change your goals or to keep setting new heights? Can you handle the backlash of being the person that is ever-changing?
No matter what causes us to behave in whatever fashion we choose the biggest thing to remember is we are all human. If we communicate and empathize there is nothing we can’t do. The main thing is remember no one is in your head. Require no more of others than you want them to require of you.
Relationships By Karmel