You’ve met a great partner and you have been together for a while and you’re pretty sure you’re in love -- now you just have to meet the family. This is not as scary as we make it, but you both have to do it at some point why not now. Before you freak out and try to avoid the inevitable first encounter try these tips, they will help you make a great first impression calmly.
Conversation can be tough with new people -- especially those you're supposed to impress. Pressure to charm the parents can leave you tongue tied, so rather than panic over not having anything to say, ask questions. People love to talk about themselves if you let them, so use this first meeting as an opportunity to learn as much as you can about the family. What do they do (or what did they do if they're retired)? What are their hobbies? Do they have any funny stories about your partner’s younger days they want to share? Even better stories that your partner does not want them to share :). The point is to shift the spotlight away from you and onto them.
Help out where you can, or at least offer. If they say no that is ok, some people prefer to do everything themselves (from serving the meal to cleaning up afterwards), but it won't go unnoticed if you at least make it known that you're happy to help. It will help endear you to the folks, and your partner will be happy knowing you're putting some effort into the meeting.
Flattery will get you everywhere, especially where the parents are concerned. The trick is to do it in such a way that it sounds natural, not overly rehearsed or fake. Rather than walk in and tell his mom how great she looks and how much you love her dress, her hair and her rose garden, be more specific: Remarking on her choice of artwork, the way she seasoned the roast chicken or the stylish way she decorated the bathroom will get you further than empty niceties that seem too general to mean anything.
Prepare yourself, they may not be making plans with you next week to join in the family function but that does not mean they don't like you. Relax, enjoy yourself, don't expect miracles and by all means just be yourself. You will get there, some just take time to warm up to you. I mean you have been with your partner for a while, so you know them, now give the family the time to get to know you.
Get To Know the Parents
by Jasmine