Are we being too hard on each other? I mean really, come on let’s face it. We hate it when people judge us. We want people to see us as individuals. How many of us are said to be a certain way because of a relative we spend a lot of time with or a person we resemble? How many of us are told we are just like our ____________fill in the blank please.
What about when we see a group of people in a certain part of town? The first thing we say is, “They act like that on that side of town.” Yes, you do! There are certain places within your own community that you do not go to for a specific reason. You know the reason. But you are afraid that a consequence will ensue if you happen to be in that area. As if some cosmic god will punish you for being in the wrong place at the wrong time.
Have you ever entered a store and seen a person dressed a certain way and known for sure you were in trouble? Only to find that you were wrong!
I know, now you are thinking about that one time you might be right. I say to that this:
When you are doomed, you are doomed. There is nothing you can do to change it. It’s like the movie “Final Destination”. Death followed them around like funk on a skunk! The more they tried to avoid it the more determined it became.
Well what are you saying DiVa? What is this all about? I’m saying you get one life. We are all part of the human race. No matter the color, gender, sexuality, socio-economic level, class, etc. we are all just people. We are all affected by the same things. Ultimately, we all want to win at the game of life. We assume winners are those that fulfill specific requirements that we have laid out in our minds.
The real winners are those that realize we are all one. When one is hurt we all are. We are all here for a purpose. Find yours. It is not necessary for you to find other people’s purposes. Nor does the next person need your instant judgment. Be about your own business. You will be surprised how much less you worry about the next person’s affairs.
Should the time come when you are affected by someone in a negative way put yourself in their position; unless that person is a psychopath in which case you may disregard this article and go for what you know; do what it might take for you to come out of the mind frame this person is in. Empathize!
Most people act out because they feel alone or misunderstood. They lose hope. The most dangerous thing in the world is a person with no hope. In this, the beginning of a new year, I beg of you. Don’t forget all that emotion you had last month. Give your fellow man a little slack. Loosen the chains a little bit and allow them to be imperfect. You are! Shouldn’t they be allowed to be imperfect too? And should they stumble, forgive quickly! Give to people the things you wish from them. Most of us are kind enough to return it.
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