stay with me
offerings
Once we have found the right amount of energy in our invitations by using intention to ask our horse to be with us, we would of course like him to now stay with us. We must not force him or demand he do so, but instead offer him something positive so that he would like to stay and chooses to do so himself. When we are working at liberty there should be no form of force or demand put upon our horses, otherwise it’s not truly liberty. We must always offer free choice for the horse to leave and do his own thing and we must not feel offended if he does so.
We want to bring positives to
our relationship with our
horses, not negative.
Negatives can be
anything from keeping
him haltered so he will
stay, to pressuring him,
to abuse. There are many
forms and we must learn
to recognise them. If he
would rather wonder off
and eat, why not ask to
join him in his activity
and then ask he join you
in yours. He will like you
much more for understanding
his ideas rather than just demanding your own.
When we suggest to our horse we would like him to stay with us after joining us it’s really a follow through from our original ask of
“Be With Me”. We shouldn’t have to encourage him to stay, just offer him reasons to want to.