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BE INSPRED, FEBRUARY 2014
FROM THE EDITOR,
Arlene Summers
“Even though there may be times it seems I’m far away never wonder
where I am ‘cause I am always by your side.”
--Celine Dion from The Power of Love
February is the season where school aged
children give away cards and heart shaped
candies, while adults provide more lavish
gifts to express their affection. There are also
individuals who wait for this time of the year to
come around and express their love the very
way they know how. Some people go out of
their way to show an abundance of affection,
while others don’t.
In the book The 5 Love Languages by Gary
Chapman, love is a partnership where one
person isn’t always the submissive one, or in a
competition to override their partner. It’s about
being able to making long term compromises,
so that the person you enjoy isn’t filled with
feelings of emptiness. Maybe you are the type
of person who loves to be embellished with gifts,
maybe the gift of giving you is more valuable
than anything tangible ever created.
You’ve got to keep in mind that filling
someone’s emotional need means that you
must understand what causes them to feel
loved. According to Gary Chapman, the love a
person requires falls into 5 categories: Words of
Affirmation, Quality Time, Acts of Service, Gifts,
and Touch. In Summary…………
1.
Words of Affirmation: You feel cared
not just a body present during your
activity.
3.
Acts of Service: You feel cared for when
your partner relieves you of a task that
you would like done for you.
4.
Gifts: You feel cared for when your
5.
Touch: You feel cared for when your
partner hugs, kisses, massages you,
etc. It doesn’t always have to be
connected with sexual intimacy.
partner gives you a gift to make you
feel appreciated.
When you care about someone it goes beyond
expressions of being financially taking care of
someone else. You must make the decision to
have an open mind and heart about the person
you love. Remember to love beyond Valentine’s
Day because this day is only an experience
that temporarily meets an emotional need.
Go beyond one day to show that you care and
show your admiration. Do your best to love
and empower each
other not only on
Valentine’s Day, but
every day.
“Love is when you
look into someone’s
wonderful they think you are, etc.
2.
for when your partner expresses their
appreciation to you, telling you how
eyes and see
everything you need.”
Quality Time: You feel cared for when
your partner is together with you and
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