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She is obviously going to be ashamed of
that particular part of her body. And worst,
she might grow up thinking that women
are meant to be cowards!
The same goes with expressions such as
“you are such a D.”
Associating being a jerk with such an
important part of the male anatomy is
subconsciously programming young boys
to be what people call “f**boys.”
Like Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie said:
“The problem with gender is it prescribes
how we should be, rather than recognizing how we are.” Such expressions define
the identity of males and females without
even giving them the chance to create their
identity.
Similarly, the fact that boys are praised
when they manage to sleep with several girls when girls are called all sorts
of names when doing the exact thing is
straight up sexist.
I am not in the position to judge or define
how one’s sex life should be, and I never
will. I just wonder why boys are not called
names when they sleep around.
The second and last troubling thing with
my C-word experience is the fact that my
father never answered me when I asked
him what it meant.
Indeed, speaking or even mentioning this
part of the female anatomy has always
been taboo as though it is something
shameful.
I firmly believe it’s time for the world and
women to change these perceptions.
Not only will this help the woman to be
more comfortable in her skin, but also, be
aware of other beauties and complexities
of her anatomy.
The problem
with gender is
it prescribes how
we should be,
rather than
recognizing
how we are.
There are so many other misconceptions
around both genders that need to be corrected for our community to prosper.
You and I make up this society.
Our actions will either break or make the
world we live.
It starts with small but impactful actions
like not calling your friend a C or D the
next time he or she acts like a coward
or jerk.