BAJAN SUN MAGAZINE
NOV 2014
By Denise J Charles
T
he quickie may have gotten a bad rap
over the years for lacking intimacy, but
after reading this, you’ll see how it can spice
up your marriage.
Today, more than ever before, there is an
unmistakable drive towards educating us in the
fine art and science of lovemaking. After
decades of underestimating the power of female
sexuality, the "I Am Woman Hear Me Roar"
anthem of the '60s and '70s has unleashed, for
the most part, a brand of woman confident in her
sexuality and far more knowledgeable about
what she wants. This has not come without
some effort, as we have all been exposed to the
countless seminars, books and articles (present
company included), which are designed to help
us
rev
up
our
sex
lives.
Men, the previous culprits of "wham, bam, thank
you mam" sex, have been tutored and cultured
in the fine art of being virtual connoisseurs of
lovemaking. Sounds excellent on paper, but the
reality is, that with life in the fast lane as most of
us experience it, fast-food sex is probably what
we’re likely to get on a regular basis. Let’s be
honest, in a normal week, how many of us really
have the time to roll out the rose petals, scented
candles and fragrant oils? We’re likely to reserve
these things for special events or weekends as
we seek to grab our sex quota between the
waking baby, complaining teenager and our
morning
coffee
(sounds
familiar?).
Which brings us to the inevitable quickie; with so
much emphasis on long, leisurely lovemaking,
do we even know how to make quick hay while
the sun shines? I know many wives are wary of
this idea because most of us women tend to
describe ourselves sexually as slow ovens which
need adequate time to heat up. But maybe there
is a way to benefit from speedy sex which can
still give new meaning to the phrase "you leave
me breathless." Follow these tips to learn how to
maximize
and
master
the
quickie.
Train
Your
Brain
Getting the most out of a quickie means virtually
having a ready frame of mind for sex, most of
the time. While for many husbands quick
readiness may be a fait accompli, for most
wives, it may take a literal retraining of our
brains. We women have been told repeatedly
that we need time to be aroused and while there
may be some truth there, we need not become
stuck
in
slow-response
mode.
Since sexual readiness and sexual enjoyment
literally begin in the brain, then it makes loads of
sense to deliberately think sexual thoughts. Use
your imagination to fantasize and think up some
steamy sex scenes with your spouse. Imagine
doing all those things you love to do or haven’t
had a chance to try. Take a little time from your
busy schedule to try this for a few minutes each
day. This is like putting extra storage in your
arousal bank, which makes it easier for you to
enter the sex act with minimum "on-site"
preparation because your sex-bank has already
been in over-drive. This makes you literally
ready and rearing to go at the drop of a hat.
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