BAJAN SUN MAGAZINE
NOV 2014
HOW WIVES CAN FIND JOY IN THE QUICKIE CONTINUED
Feel
Sexy
To
Be
Sexy
With quick sex there really is no time to whip out the
sexy lingerie and those red heels with the fish net
stockings in tow. Your hair may be a mess and there
may have been no time to get all dolled up. So what do
you do? Your ability to feel like a sex goddess has to
come from within and must not be too dependent on
the externals, even though admittedly they do help.
Understand that your sexual power lies in how
liberated and free of inhibitions you are and this starts
with how you feel about yourself. Loving yourself au
naturel is therefore critical to your ability to lay on the
sexiness when you’re not all coiffed and curled like a
model. Maybe doing some stuff around the house
naked (with discretion of course) and celebrating your
body in spite of its imperfections is a good way to get
rid of the body consciousness that could inhibit your
enjoyment
of
the
quickie.
Denise J Charles is an educator, counselor, relationship
-coach, published author and blogger. She holds a
Masters Degree in Education and is a qualified trainerof-trainers. Denise is Executive Director of "Better
Blends Relationship Institute," a counseling and
training entity founded by herself and her husband
Gabriel. Denise’s blog on sex can be found "here".
Denise’s new book is "How To Have Mind-Blowing
Sex Without Losing Your Brain."
Think
Hard,
Work
Hard,
Play
Hard
The power of the quickie is in its spontaneity and
surprise. This can be heightened by what you
individually try to get out of each session. Whether
you’re trying to reach a climax before the baby wakes
or before the pot roast comes out the oven, or trying to
maximize on shower time before your toddler comes
banging on the door, a quickie is a great exercise in the
power of concentration. If you want to play hard at sex
in record time, then it will involve every enthusiastic
fiber of your being; no holds barred! But even if your
husband zips off before you reach the mountain top,
you can still enjoy it for what it was worth; a time to
have some uninhibited fun and to get closer. Knowing
that time is limited should also encourage your spouse
to be more creative in how he uses his hands, mouth
and penis to bring maximum pleasure in record time.
More importantly, quickies should remind us women
that our sexual enjoyment is really within our own
power, as we too have to demonstrate that we
understand
how
our
own
bodies
work.
Since regular sex does serve to fuel further desire in
marriage, embracing the quickie is a powerful
reminder of the diversity which should define our
sexual
marriages.
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