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detected it as early as possible.
This is good because her type of
cancer is treatable by chemo and
radiation.
This is good because we live in
a first world society with world
class medicine.
This is good because we all real-
ize now that none of us gets out
alive and we need to love each
other now and fiercely.
Sometimes you won’t be able to
bring yourself to say that this is
good in any way Maybe it hurts
too much. Then you can start
with this sucks less because… At
least…
Please know that finding some-
thing of value and merit doesn’t
ever exempt another person from
wrongdoing or mean that your
feelings are utterly and com-
pletely valid. This is not about
ever letting someone else off the
hook, it’s about letting yourself
off the hook. I’m not suggesting
you ignore your feelings. Or try
to talk yourself out of grief. But
when an experience has hijacked
your brain and your heart, you
have a technique to take it back.
This is good because may NOT
work for you. It may make you
angry and sick to your stomach.
If it does, then shift the word-
ing into something that doesn’t
trigger anger or panic. Maybe
“despite the pain and frustra-
tion, the lesson or gift here is…”
This HAS good because. This
situation HAS good because.
This situation that feels so aw-
ful right now has unintended
consequences of good because…
Because I am amazing, I have
found slivers of goodness in this
horrible awful no good situation
because it has led me to XYZ.
Or.. “well shit. This is good be-
cause it makes a great story.”
I’m not trying to Pollyanna here.
Many people need a solid throat
punch and sometimes life really
does suck, but let Karma han-
dle that. Feel your anger. Throw
plates at the wall if that’s your
thing. But then get back on track
as fast as possible.
Practice this framing on the little
things for a week and let me
know if you start to feel a sense
of relief of being freed from an-
ger. You deserve freedom.
Your homework? Reframe one
situation and email me with the
subject line THIS IS GOOD
BECAUSE and I’ll give you per-
sonal feedback and a hell yeah to
keep you going on your progress.
I’d love to hear from you. allie@
creativegangsters.com
You’ve got this, you beautiful
badass.
About the Author
Yo, I'm Allie Smith. Solopreneur Coach + Tribe Builder +
Visual Content Creator. I have a B.A. in Literature and
Writing Studies and an M.S. in Instructional and Per-
formance Technology (basically adult learning with an
emphasis in online learning, sounds super smarty pants,
right?). I have worked with scientists, doctors and PhDs
via strategy calls and ongoing professional training in
mastermind groups to further their career and personal
development. And now I use all those skills to help solopre-
neurs build their online marketing.
I’m wildly multi-passionate and my passions are mindful
travel, craft coffee and photography. One of my joys is
working with clients to use their message to attract and
build a fierce, loyal following. I also have an Instagram
addiction.
I read all my own email and I’d love to connect.
[email protected]
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