1. Give Him Ideas Even if guys like a profile, they often hesitate to reach out because they aren’ t sure what to say. Make it easy by mentioning the kind of dates you love in your bio. Write:“ I’ m on a constant quest to find the best gelato in town” or“ I never say no to good sushi.” That way, he knows exactly what to suggest when he sends you a message.

2. Slow Down and Be Specific When it comes to dating apps, we tend to have random, rapidfire convos with way too many people. It sucks the fun out of the experience and makes it feel impersonal. Before you fire off another“ Hey!” instead try something like,“ About to binge on Stranger Things. What about you?” That sort of specific detail makes you come off as a living, breathing human being.

3. Go Deeper Sure, his pics tell you a lot. But show him you’ re interested in more than just his looks by mentioning something a bit more meaningful that you gleaned from his profile or messages, like,“ Where was that hiking photo taken?” or even just“ You crack me up.” It shows that you’ re a tiny bit deeper than the Tinderbots out there, but it has the added benefit of moving things past the boring basics.

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4. Make It Real Even if you have a great connection online, there are still some guys who never move things to an actual date. If you sense you’ re getting trapped in yet another game of endless chat hell, try:“ Gotta run right now, but we should grab coffee sometime.” After that, resist falling back into another frustrating round of back-andforth until you have a time and place locked in on your iCal.

5. Don’ t Make the First Date a Big Deal Nothing kills the mood like overplanning. So keep things chill, and try something casual but specific, like“ I’ m around next Thursday if you want to meet up.” That no-pressure strategy makes it more likely the two of you will end up with a solid plan.

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