RESOLUTION 1
Have. More. Sex.
Because getting it on should happen as often as you damn well please! And research shows having regular sex reduces stress by releasing endorphins and oxytocin— and( get this!) it helps you sleep better, fights off colds, and can even make your skin glowy. So here’ s how to put your more-action plan into, well, action.
Make Every Day a Foreplay Day
It’ s no secret among sex experts that extended foreplay leads to satisfying sex and better orgasms for women— score! Sexologist Emily Morse takes it a step further:“ We think of foreplay as what we do during the quick buildup to the main event. But it pays to view foreplay as an ongoing seduction that begins immediately after your last orgasm and continues right up until you two are in bed again.” So once you catch your breath, start revving your engines for your next time, whether it’ s in an hour, a few days, or a week. Focus on the lusty looks you give each other in passing, the sexy texts you send, and the kissing and touching that’ ll lead to your next session.
Screw Spontaneity
There are two types of desire: spontaneous and responsive. Spontaneous is that magical, must-have-you-now encounter that starts with a flirty glance in his direction and ends with simultaneous orgasms in an outdoor shower— think Hollywood movie sex. But guess what? Studies indicate that only about 15 percent of women( compared with 75 percent of men) experience desire this way. So instead, focus on responsive desire, which you two generate yourselves. Plan a night in to blast The Weeknd, make fancy cocktails, and dance really close— and let it lead to bedroom high notes that last all, um, weeknd.
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TRY IT!
T H E 20-MINUTE MAKE-OUT
Set a timer, and challenge yourselves to spend a full 20 minutes kissing. This move increases your desire— in less time than it takes to wait for a new Candy Crush life! Start by nibbling on his upper, then lower lip. Take your tongue and trace his mouth, then move slowly down his body with nothing but lip action— and have him do the same to you. By the time the buzzer goes off, you’ ll both be wild with lust.