It ’ s important to remember that there are no perfect people and no perfect relationships . You don ’ t always have to get it right ; you just have to be able to recognize and repair disconnects when they occur , because they inevitably will . That ’ s just part of the human experience . There will be a lot of influences that will leave impressions on your child , and many of those will be out of your control . We can never fully control the outcome . All we can do is show up every day with a relationship-focused mindset and offer our love and support . When we are the secure base , the “ home ” that our children can return to and trust in , we are giving the most beautiful and important gift we can offer - the gift of a positive relationship .