Baby Maternity July 2022 | Page 29

Powerlessness
Anger
Feeling disconnected

Powerlessness

In the NICU your baby will be surrounded by nurses and doctors who are caring for her . It ’ s normal to feel overwhelmed by the medical equipment . Ask the nurses to teach you how to work around the tubes and wires to change diapers , take temperatures , and bathe your child . Once you begin to be a part of your child ’ s care , you will begin to feel less helpless and more like a parent of a newborn .

Anger

Some parents may have feelings of anger that their child is in the NICU . It is easy to blame doctors , NICU staff , or your partner for the situation . You may feel angry that someone else is taking care of your child or that you are in this situation in the first place .. Try to let go of anger and focus on you and your baby . Feelings of anger take a lot of energy and you will need to save all of yours for taking care of yourself and baby .

Feeling disconnected

When your baby is in the NICU for an extended amount of time , parents may feel a disconnect from the child . This can be a surprising and disturbing feeling , but it is both normal and common for NICU parents . Mom is often released from the hospital long before baby is allowed to join them at home , and during that time the main caregivers are doctors and nursing staff . It is easy to see why parents would feel disconnected from their child . Be honest about your feelings and share them with the NICU staff . They will encourage you to become more involved with baby ’ s care and help you work through your feelings in a healthy way As a NICU parent you may feel one or all of these emotions as you walk through this journey . Keep in mind that the NICU staff is there to help guide and encourage you and your family through the process . In time , baby will grow and thrive , and the NICU experience will be a thing of the past .
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