Autism Parenting Magazine Issue 44(Member's Dashboard) | Page 10

SLEEP Remember whatever you CHOSE will become a habit. So if you lay down with them, expect to every night. If they are crying, let them. Stand on other side of door and every five minutes go in: here’s the crucial part, do not engage in talking or getting upset. Stick with my three C’s - stay cool, calm, and collected. Repeat your bedtime phrases and tell them they are okay. I like saying ‘I love you,’ ‘Time to sleep’ and ‘It’s bedtime, goodnight.’ Leave the room. This will get better the more consistent you are. Children will feed off your stress, so staying calm is essential. The calmer you are shows your young one that you are in control. When you are in control they will feel safe. When they feel safe, they will sleep. It doesn’t have to be complicated or stressful.  The work and effort you put in now will pay off later in your child’s life. I know — I lived it. Remember that you as the parent are responsible for setting up a good system of structured living. Sleeping and eating routines are the most important part of being healthy happy, and successful. I guarantee that if you as the parent remain firm and loving, you will establish a pattern of control that will ripple out into other areas of your relationship with your child. Different Roads Tools for kids on the spectrum since 1995. (800) 853-1057 • www.difflearn.com Kim Faiman is a single mother of twin boys — one with autism, one typical. She is a third degree black belt and taught young ones martial arts for 10 years. Her sons are her testimony to what she knows works for children. Kim’s sons just turned 18 years old and both are exemplary students and human beings — she is very proud.