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7. Make eye contact
Cruising happens in glances: averted, held, direct, passing. There is an art to glancing that
can’t be taught. Mastering the perfect glance takes practice.
Don’t hold the eye contact for too long unless you’re getting signals that he’s cruising you back
(a half smile while scanning your body is a good sign).
8. Ask him to spot you
Some cruise queens say this move is way too bold. I disagree. You’re asking him to be your
spotter, not your boyfriend. Having a spotter is useful, particularly if you’re lifting heavy weight.
Don’t ask him to spot every set for a particular lift. That’s rude and inconsiderate. However, if
you want to go up in weight on your last set and if he’s nearby, ask him to spot you. It’s a great
way to get him to look at you up close.
9. Always be courteous and polite
Nothing is more unattractive than a dickish dude who doesn’t respect gym etiquette. It’s an
automatic turnoff. Don’t leave dumbbells lying on the floor. Re-rack your weights. When you’re
finished, wipe off the equipment. Don’t hog machines.
10. Leave your phone in your locker
Stay off your phone. Not only will this make you more present and attentive (and make you
aware if someone is cruising you), but it will also keep you from sitting and texting on a ma-
chine that someone is waiting to use (see “gym jerk” above).
11. Be friendly
If he talks to you, engage with him authentically. Tell him your name. Ask him about a li ft you
saw him doing, even if you know how to do it already. Guys love talking about their “unique”
lift, what muscle groups it works, and how their “trainer friend” taught them how to do it. Every-
one has a gym story they like to tell. I certainly do.
Be charming. Don’t call him “bro.” Do not immediately ask to suck his dick. Remember that
some guys aren’t cruising, they’re just friendly.
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