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Sex & Relationship
Tips for Being a Better Gay Top
If you are looking for tips on being a better gay top, you wouldn’t be alone. While many guys
identify as top men according to some of the existing research, few are aware of technique,
form and style.
Part of this has to do with a machismo factor on the part of some gay men and part of it relates
to simply not knowing the basics.
In the past, we’ve offered readers who are interested in bottoming suggestions on how to ride a
guy the right way and avoid pain.
Because of strong interest in this topic, we decided to explore the other side of the dynamic
through the lens of psychology; specifically borrowing from the school of mindfulness.
You may be wondering what that term … mindfulness …means?
Well, mindfulness is nothing more than a state of awareness that focuses your total span of
attrntion on the here and now. Tracing its roots back to ancient Buddhism, mindfulness teaches
people how to live in the moment and be one with their environment.
The suggestions that you are about to read comes to us from readers who identify as bottoms,
combined with wisdom from tops who actively engage in mindful based love making.
Some of these tips may strike you as common sense while others will cause you to pause and
reflect. Read them all in order to fully absorb their deeper meaning.
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