15 . Dominance and Submission
Dominance and submission refer to a consensual erotic power exchange be- tween two ( or more ) people . Although it may sound scary , due to consent and safety precautions kinkster engage in , a D / S scene can be safer than a vanilla hook-up . “ Any time that we are talking about power control , that is the safest kind of sex that partners can have because there ’ s so much communication , trust , and vulnerability built into these kinds of exchanges and sexual experienc- es ,” says sex therapist and author of Reclaiming Pleasure : A Sex Positive Guide for Moving Past Sexual Trauma and Living a Passionate Life Dr . Holly Richmond .
16 . Autonepiophilia
Autonepiophilia means adult babies . These harmless beings like to wear a crin- kly diaper and often have a “ mommy ” or other nurturing dominant figure take care of them . It ’ s okay if it ’ s not your thing , but as kinksters like to say , don ’ t yuck someone else ’ s yum .
17 . Urophilia
Urophilia is a fancy name for piss play , golden showers , and watersports . Often during piss play , there is a degree of domination and submission . For example , you may see a businessman going to his dominatrix to get peed on after a long day of barking orders . Others integrate the kink into their romantic relationships . “ My partner got me into weeing on each other early on in our relationship ,” says Anoushka Lee *. “ I remember feeling a mixture of thoughts and emotions , all the taboos and stereotypes of it being a ‘ dirty act for dirty old men ,’ combined with a feeling of intense excitement and arousal .”
18 . Sadism & Masochism
Sadism refers to a person , a sadist , who gets off on inflicting pain . Their neces- sary counterpart is masochists , those who get off on receiving erotic pain . As always , S & M relationships require consent from all parties involved . Once all parties feel enthusiastic about what ’ s about to go down , S & M can look like im- pact play , erotic humiliation , or dripping hot wax on one another .
19 . Wax play
Wax play involves dripping hot candle wax on your lover . Not only can wax play be extremely hot ( sorry ) but it involves the use of romantic lighting .
“ Wax play is therapeutic for me ,” says sex educator Erin Kennedy . “ Being kinky with fibromyalgia means I ’ m always seeking sensations that soothe .”
For those concerned about burns , opt for a candle made for sex , such as Jimmy- Jane ’ s afterglow massage candles . These candles burn at a lower temperature , so you can enjoy the heat on your body without worrying about causing injury .
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