Sound familiar ? Just as a scuba diver puts on a protective suit before she swims with the sharks ; you too , must zip up your energetic suit before you enter any negatively charged situation . Being highly sensitive makes you vulnerable to others ’ energies , especially to them infiltrating your energy field .
By setting energetic boundaries , you become a more loving , compassionate person . Such “ love fences ” allow you to compassionately engage with others , but still protect yourself from any unwanted energy . It is possible to be loving with another person while still holding them accountable . Not holding them accountable for their energy or choices actually impedes their personal and spiritual growth .
Establishing energetic boundaries with those closest to you is not always easy because you are more sensitive to the emotional pull they have on your heart . You may even want their happiness more than they want it for themselves . And , you can become so involved in trying to generate it for them that the effort takes a toll on you . At its best , the resulting energetic drain makes you vulnerable to compassion fatigue . At its worst , it can stress your heart , resulting in exhaustion , anxiety , or depression , and increased blood pressure or cardiac disease .
Being compassionate doesn ’ t mean you have to engage in the negative energy or process that someone is discharging . Zipping up your energetic suit keeps you from taking on their stuff , and instead support them from a place where you feel centered and empowered . You can still be compassionate , but refuse to play a part in their drama .
For instance , when someone wants to vent about a particular issue , you can listen with an open heart , but refrain from taking
“ COMPASSIONATE PEOPLE ARE BOUNDARIED PEOPLE .”
– BRENE BROWN
on their process , giving unsolicited advice , or trying to fix the situation . When you zip up your energetic suit before becoming a sounding board , you can lovingly support while remaining calm and nonreactive .
To disengage from people who easily drain you , you need to become aware of what triggers your reactions and take time to energetically detox after the encounter . In these situations , such “ energy bullies ,” can push your emotional buttons and then use your reaction to bring power and energy to themselves .
Zip up your protective energetic suit by practicing these 5 steps :
1GIVE YOURSELF THE PERMISSION TO PAUSE .
When you feel anxious or emotionally vulnerable , take a few deep breaths , drop into your heart space , and check in with yourself . This pause provides a break from the situation to gain healthy detachment . It allows you to drop into your heart space and tune in to what ’ s going on within you .