ONE THING TO UNDERSTAND ABOUT SOLVING TRIGGERS : IT ’ S MORE THAN JUST NOT REACTING . SOLVING YOUR TRIGGER MEANS YOU ’ RE FREE OF IT FOREVER .
jerk response you feel like you can ’ t control , my husband , Paul , and I call that a “ trigger ”.
What most people do when their partner triggers them is either shut down and try to suck it up , or try and FORCE their partner to change or stop the behavior they believe is causing the trigger .
It ’ s what we ’ re all taught to do : Blame the other person for triggering us , because if THEY don ’ t stop the behavior , how can we possibly be happy ?
Your invisible tripwires .
Every trigger you have is a false belief or false meaning you ’ ve integrated into your own blueprint . Read that again ! Each trigger is like putting down an invisible tripwire , then getting upset at people who trip on something they can ’ t even see !
But what if you didn ’ t need other people to change in order to be free of your triggers ? What if you could free yourself , whenever you wanted , by solving your triggers ? Wouldn ’ t that be amazing ?
One thing to understand about solving triggers : It ’ s more than just not reacting . SOLVING your trigger means you ’ re free of it forever .
I ’ m going to share how solving a trigger works , but before I do , I want to talk to you about why your triggers are a GIFT to you !
Yes , you read that right - a gift ! Your triggers aren ’ t happening to you , they ’ re happening FOR you , and here ’ s why : Every trigger you experience shows you a false belief or false meaning in your blueprint that ’ s causing you pain , which means every trigger you solve is a lost piece of yourself that you get to put back . Totally worth it , right ?!
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You might think the best way to handle your trigger is to DEMAND other people to stop “ triggering you ” by changing the words or behaviors feeding into your trigger .
The biggest problem with that viewpoint is how powerless it leaves YOU to change the situation . If the other person won ’ t change , you ’ re completely helpless to feel better . You ’ ve given all your power away to someone else . It ’ s a miserable place to be !
Now let ’ s talk about three ways to start solving your triggers , so you can finally be free !
TIP 1 : EVERY TRIGGER IS UNIQUE .
A lot of people come to Paul and I expecting to hear one magic solution for solving all their triggers .
If there was only one solution to solve all triggers , Paul and I would put it on a postcard ,
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