Who Wrote on Your Walls?
By Jean Maurie
Happy 2014! What do you want to accomplish or attract this New Year? Have you set any goals for yourself? What about making resolutions? I’ve heard not to make resolutions because they don’t work and we end up feeling like failures. People think that will power is the way to keep resolutions. When they run out of will power they quit, feeling like failures.
Let’s look at will power. The definitions of will power are “The strength of will to carry out one's decisions, wishes, or plans, the ability to control oneself and determine one's actions and control of one's impulses and actions; determination; self-control.” Will power means change and change is uncomfortable for a lot of people. We think we want to change and reach goals but our beliefs from past programming takes over. What if you told your parents that you wanted to be a singer when you grew up and they told you that your dream was unrealistic, you should get a career that would guarantee a regular salary and only a certain few people made money singing? Or what if you were a chubby child and you were always teased and told you took after your fat grandmother? What if you heard all your life that people who had a lot of money were crooks, or you heard the phrase “filthy rich”?
These things you heard all your life are the writings on your walls of your mind. So for instance if you wanted to lose weight, you might give it a try for a few weeks but those words on your walls keep telling you that you’re just like your fat grandmother. Would this make you feel like you could succeed? Or would you keep seeing a picture of your overweight grandmother and think “what’s the use”? We write on our own walls too about how we feel about ourselves based on what we’ve heard from our parents, friends, society, the news, advertisements and more. Sure some people can bust through the programs or writing on their walls but usually they have gotten help and erased the words.