Aspire Magazine: Inspiration for a Woman's Soul.(TM) Oct/Nov 2014 - Featuring Louise Hay | Page 45

Author and security consultant Gavin de
Becker wrote in his book The Gift of Fear,
about PINs or Pre-Incident Indicators. These
are tactics that predators use to gain control
over victims and usually victims will go along
with them against their intuition because
women are conditioned to be nice. Here are
a few of the ploys they use.
Charm is one. Feigning to need help
is another. Refusing to accept no as a
complete sentence. (I think Oprah explained
it brilliantly this way.) And saying things like,
“I promise I won’t hurt you” actually indicates
that someone is about to hurt you. Women
sometimes do not want to ruffle feathers so
we will continue an unwanted conversation
for the sake of appearing polite. All of us need
to be aware that these are traps and that even
if your intuition says run and you hesitate
and think, well, that’s crazy, he just said he
wouldn’t hurt me, you are putting yourself in
danger. Do not let your nice girl syndrome
or prior abuse stop you from acknowledging
your gut instinct about people, places
and things that just don’t feel right. Picture
yourself as an airport security person and
think, how would they view this situation?
Airport security in Israel rely on the human
factor and looks for signs in conversation of
anxiousness, intention and mood.
Think of it like the fan that comes on when
your laptop gets hot or the airbag that deploys

in your car. It’s a totally sophisticated safety
feature of the human body. You might sweat,
you might get the nervous stomach or think
of a plan like, I could just avoid eye contact
with the pushy person on the street and say
loudly, I’m late. The trick is when your mind
tells you what to do, don’t override your
safety feature!
The cool part of all of this is that we can
develop our intuition to be one of our most
powerful tools to guide us through life, not
just alert us to harm. I love what Gabrielle
Bernstein says about fear. “Fear is a great
teacher. The world is a classroom and
people are our assignments.” So we need
fear, but we don’t have to be ruled by it. Our
intuition just needs to be acknowledged,
nurtured and trained like a Spartan warrior.

Before making a huge decision if you tapped
into your intuition instead of your ego, do you
think the answer might be slightly different?
Oh yeah!
Intuition is linked to your soul, the authentic
voice within you. When you get that gut
feeling it is your innermost truth alerting you
to something, which may be good or bad for

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that is sending us warning signals. Ever get
around someone and just felt sick to your
stomach with anxiety? Not about the task
at hand or a deadline but just an authority
figure or person who was so unpleasant and
your stomach would be upset? We need
to pay strong attention when we get these
messages from our bodies. They are trying
to communicate with us!