successes – much more so than novels
that are often seen as fantasy and
therefore a “waste of time”. How else
do you explain the global success of
Eat, Pray and Love, the story of a
woman wounded by love who goes in
search of herself across the world, from
Italy to Indonesia? Elizabeth Gilbert has
since written other novels, like, for
example, “The Signature of All Things“,
that in spite of its intriguing title and
subject matter, hasn’t met with the
same success – probably because it
didn’t give off the same whiff of
personal intimacy.
of such memoir-like books: they don’t
read like fiction, they are one man or
one woman’s exploration of their own
lives. Mind you, these are people who
haven’t done anything remarkable;
they have just lived their lives as
someone’s child, lover, parent.
In short they are like you and me and
that’s why people are curious. Such
books are “literary selfies“.
So if your fondest hope is to be the
author of a break-through novel, write
a “selfie”…and don’t bother with
blogging!
I’ll tell you a secret. Contrary to what
you might think, I’m not blogging in
order to sell you my books (if you’re
curious, you can see them displayed in
the sidebars, if not, just ignore them). I
only blog because I enjoy it, I simply
like to share my ideas with you and
hear what you think.
So tell me, how about you, why do you
blog? Have you seen a connection
between your book sales and your blog
traffic?
And herein lies the cause of the success
REBLOG – Building Confidence #BDSM #Dominance #submission
Princess and I
I would like to share this post written
by my friend Southern Sir. You can find
his excellent blog by clicking HERE.
So many look at a Dominant and think
they are the most confident people in
the world, that they were born knowing
just what to do, how to do it, and when
to do.it. While Dom’s do exhibit
dominant traits being strong and being
able to express that for some can be
two different things.
When Kayla and I got together and our
D/s aspect of the relationship began to
grow, I wrestled with something in my
mind; “Absolute power corrupts
absolutely.” This was something that
concerned me., as my Dominance grew
would it corrupt me, would I become
drunk with that power? While I still
wrestle with it, although not as much; I
believe my answer is no it will not
corrupt me. I am aware of it, also with
the level of communication Kayla and I
have I know if I were going to far she
would let me know.
Why am I bringing this up? Recently a
reader of my blog asked me how she
could provide her husband with the
confidence he needs to grow in his
dominance. While I can only speak for
myself I do hope that my wonderful
readers will also chime in with their
own thoughts in the comments.
Kayla often refers to a D/s relationship
as yin and yang, I agree with her
completely; while opposites, each part
compliments the other.
That being said that doesn’t mean
when we first met I just stepped up and
was her perfect dream Dominant and
knew exactly what to do. My
Dominance over her grew in small
steps, just as her submission to me
grew in small steps. She didn’t just fall
to her knees before me and I didn’t just
start making decisions on everything.
We talked! More than anything we
talked endless hours about what
Dominance meant to me, what
submission meant to her. She told me
of her needs as a submissive, I told her
of my needs as a Dominant. We
communicated on many levels. When
broaching the subject of moving a
relationship into this lifestyle it is
important to know what one another
wants, needs, and expects. Also
nothing is without a grain of fear, just
like I mentioned above I had/have
certain fears. Talk about them, what
are your Dom’s fears and concerns
about the lifestyle? What are yours?
Fear only takes root in the dark, bring
them into the light and they lose
power. Being willing to open up about
yours may well g