Every guy has had one. The one guy that shaped what you are, the most important, what you’re not. You don’t mean to do to the guy that sparks your interest, but you don’t realize that there is some part of him, physically, emotionally, etc, reminds you of “ The One”. Dude quit trying to make every guy you meet the guy that got away. Katy Perry sang about it and she has moved on. He’s Not The One No matter how hard you try, the crucial thing you need to grasp is that you will not be able to maintain a healthy relationship with any new guy your dating until you get over “The One”. Give the smart, funny, guy a chance. If you had met him before meeting the guy that broke your hear, probably what you have will be everything you ever wanted. The hardest part is knowing all of this. Love Vs Attached The first step to moving on is realizing you don’t love him. You don’t. Maybe you never have. You are attached to him, and this is very different, and you need to learn to distinguish the two. Love is something that doesn’t come around very often, and most likely since you’re not together anymore, the two of you weren’t in love. Love is kind, generous, and giving. It is selfless and understanding. Expressive and prioritized. When have you witnessed a relationship that had these qualities AND was plagued by drama? A relationship like this can trigger strong emotions in someone, and it’s easy to see how these can be confused for love or adoration. However having “a lot of history” with a guy is never a justification for not breaking up with her or wanting to get back with her. And this especially should never be used as a crutch for not being able to move on. An attachment like this is hard to overcome, but understanding that it’s based on negative emotions is important so that you can bounce back. 102 A R I E S / J U LY 2 0 1 3
By: Destinee Gamble
Seriously – You Need to Get Over That Guy From High School
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t doesn’t matter how old you are, everybody still remembers their high school/college crush or should we say obsession. But ever since he broke your heart, somewhere in the back of your head, you desire a guy that mirrors him. Come on man, grow up, and move on. Getting over a guy who was your first for anything or who really hurt you is a process that takes time, and there is no reason to jump back in full force until you’re ready. But if it’s been a few years it may be time to take another look. There are a lot of special girls out there that actually deserve all this pining, you just have to let go and find them. J U LY 2 0 1 3 / ARIES 101