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not get on and she was stranded. When a person is upset and
non-communicative (risavu), twelve trains will leave without
him. Will the train come and pamper the one who is being upset
in this manner? The world will continue to function; it is not going
to wait for anyone, is it? If a groom’s wedding party is ready to
leave and you become upset and non-compliant, are they likely
to wait for you a couple of days? No, they will not. That is how
the world is.
Questioner: During a wedding one of the paternal uncles
who becomes upset and non-communicative (risavu), will send
a message that he will only come if someone comes to appease
him.
Dadashri: Yes, he will come around when the train is
ready to leave. He has already experienced that the train will
leave without him. The world goes on. Why is one being
obstinate needlessly?
If I am being upset and non-compliant (risavu) with a
train guard or the engine driver, they will ask me, ‘Why are you
being confrontational? Please get on the train.’ And if I remain
stubborn and say, ‘I am not going to get on the train.’ Will they
not just take off? Would the world wait for you? The world will
go on. You have to adjust to it otherwise you will be stranded
at the station. I have seen cases where the guard blows the
whistle and the train leaves without the one who was being
difficult!
Questioner: Then he comes to his senses that the train
has left and he is the loser.
Dadashri: What he believes is ‘I did the right thing.’ If
however, he realizes that he made a mistake in becoming upset
and non-communicative (risavu), then he will not make that
mistake again. However, one does not have that much
understanding. Man does not have the understanding to see his
own loss in this. He does not have that much ability. It requires