Aptavani-9
401
Dadashri: You should live a life free from any insistence
(khench).
Questioner: Give me an example of how one is insistent,
please.
Dadashri: Suppose we are talking. I give you an answer
and in order to make your point correct you bring up the same
topic again. That is insistence (khench). This is what people do
over and over again. If you have taken Gnan, then there should
be no insistence. If there is any insistence, then get rid of it,
because it is a mistake. There is no problem if you try to get rid
of it and it does not go away. If there is continued insistence on
your part, if Chandulal is insistent, then You have to simply
observe it, by doing so, You are free. You are separate from
your insistence if you remain the seer (jonaro). Then you are in
compliance with ‘our’ laws.
Insistence (khench) is something very different. Insistence
means, if I say, ‘No, it is like this’ but you keep belaboring your
point in order to prove yourself correct, that is insistence. There
is no truth where there is insistence; insistence is one of the
biggest negative traits. The definition of being insistence-free is
if someone tells you, ‘I don’t like it’, then you say, ‘very well.
I will keep quiet’, there is no botheration.
Questioner: So if someone keeps arguing and tries very
hard to prove his point, does that mean he has no basis?
Dadashri: But even in those situations people do not
argue with awareness; people argue because they do not have
awareness. In fact, people argue because they lack awareness.
Do you think someone with awareness would argue?
Questioner: Is it wrong or right to argue?
Dadashri: It is fine for the worldly life; it is fine if you
want to do something for the worldly life, but it is wrong if you
want liberation. In the worldly life, if you don’t argue, people will