Aptavani-9
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This is Akram Vignan. One’s personality is apparent the
moment he exits the racecourse. Such a human being radiates
peace and harmony. Nobody running in the racecourse has any
personality.
Let others win
You have done nothing but the same thing over and over
again in countless past lives. Now it will change because of the
presence of Gnan, but not otherwise. This Gnan can show You
(the enlightened Self) your mistakes! And You will believe and
accept that the fault lies with you, whereas there (in the Kramic
path) you have to ask someone else. Besides, what competence
and aptitude does he have himself that he can show you? You
yourself must ‘feel’ that the fault is indeed yours. So there is no
need to win. ‘We’ have always maintained this. ‘We’ have never
kept the principle of winning. I would let others win and then
leave. And then I will forget about it. He too will get
preoccupied with something else. Now if I were to send him
away defeated, he will harbor the link (tanto) of kashaya and
not let go. So just let the other person win and let him go.
Questioner: Yes, ‘I lose and you win, my brother.’
Dadashri: You should not say this openly to him,
otherwise he will think, ‘Oh ho ho! He has calmed down. This
is great. This is how it should be.’
Questioner: What happens if you say this to him openly?
Dadashri: If you tell him this openly, he will start a
dispute (tante chaddhe), ‘I don’t want to win this way.’ One
man did tell me this once. I said to him, ‘Sir, I sit here defeated.
You have won so go home and sleep peacefully.’ He told me,
‘I do not want it this way.’ I said to him, ‘Do not try to extract
any sweetness out of this situation.’ This is how he enters into
a dispute (tant). If you say this, he will move that way, and if
you say that, he will move this way. The world is full of