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abhimaan. His abhimaan (pride with ‘my-ness’) is at work
there. Abhimaan is to show off your possession in order to
impress others. Why does he show off? For pride - maan!
When he goes beyond maan, he will not be satisfied even with
abhimaan. Nature will sort him out by punishing him and then
he will get back on track. Just because you have four cars, you
should not have any ego or abhimaan about it. If one exhibits
abhimaan, it is the beginning of departure of the very things he
has abhimaan over. One should maintain humbleness. As you
begin to acquire worldly comforts, you should maintain
humility.
When a man claims ‘I have four sons, this son is a
Chartered Accountant, etc.,’ it is all abhimaan. ‘I am fair
skinned, I am slim…, all that is abhimaan too. ‘I am fairer than
other people; they have a dark complexion’, all that is
abhimaan. Do people not have pride (mada) because of their
looks?
Questioner: Yes they do.
Dadashri: If someone has a beautiful wife, he has mada
(pride) of, ‘There is no one like my wife.’ Does that happen or
not?
Questioner: Yes it does.
Dadashri: Now, this beauty is not going to remain the
same. It does not take long for this beauty to become ugly.
What will happen to that beauty when the face becomes
covered with small pox blisters? Would the beauty remain with
the scars of pockmarks even if the face used to be very
beautiful? Is any of this under our control? Therefore, one
should not have an ego about beauty. ‘There is no one better
looking than me,’ is abhimaan—pride with ‘my-ness’. So when
someone says, ‘I am fair’ it is not considered ego. It is
abhimaan. People have no understanding at all of what ego is.
A person with abhimaan is easily recognized.