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win the family over with love. Then, you will notice that things
are beginning to settle down. But you can only believe this if
your family members agree that things are changing and settling
down for the better. Eventually the family will always be there for
the one who has overcome this disastrous kashaya of lalacha.
Then you should not dominate and boss your wife around
(dhanipanu). You are not her boss or her owner (dhani), so
why behave like one? You are a husband in name only so why
behave as an owner (dhani)? There is no problem if you really
were her dhani. Would problems not arise if you try to boss her
around when you are not even her boss? Therefore, you should
not be bossy. When she bosses you around, accept it with a
smile and tell yourself, ‘Oh ho ho! Even you made me pay up
a pending account!’ Isn’t it good that she is making you pay off
your accounts?
There is no problem if you constantly remain in Dada’s
Agnas. Do pratikraman if you cannot remain in His Agnas.
Intense greed (lalacha) for wanting
reverence
There is no telling when intense greed (lalacha) to be
worshipped and revered will sprout within. All one needs is five
to seven people. That is all. These five to seven will tell the entire
city of Mumbai that a ‘Gnani’ has come to town; they will even
make all the arrangements. They will go to the extent of propping
him up, making him presentable, giving him a wig if he is bald!
Alas, one has done only this for countless lives. These
verily are the attributes of it; all the misery and the obstacles are
the consequences of doing just that, this is all one has done. All
he needs is a handful of people to blow the horn, create publicity
and things will start to roll. A person does not realize the
consequences of doing this. It will be great if he becomes free
in this life but that only happens if he understands all this.
Otherwise, intense greed (lalacha) to be worshipped and
revered will not allow him to attain liberation.