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Aptavani-9
Questioner: But he exercises his dominance (dhanipanu)
and bosses her around only when sex is involved, is that not so?
Dadashri: Bossiness as a husband means to threaten the
wife into having sex. But then he will pay the price for it in his
next life.
Questioner: What will happen?
Dadashri: It binds vengeance (vair). Is any soul likely to
remain suppressed?
When husband and wife have a lot of conflicts, he will say
to her, ‘Why do you walk around sulking?’ She will sulk even
more and she will keep that disdain on her mind. She will say
to herself, ‘I will take care of him when the time comes.’ She
will not refrain from remembering and avenging her disdain.
Every living being will do the same; every living being harbors
this inner grudge of vengeance (rees); all it takes is a little
prodding and teasing and it will express. No one will remain
suppressed by anyone. Each and every soul lives independently
and they have no real connections with one another. It is only
through illusion that everything appears as ‘mine’ and ‘yours’.
Women remain suppressed under societal pressure against
their will and they take revenge in their next life. They may even
bite back as a snake in the next life.
From intense greed (lalacha) to helplessness
and humiliation
One woman used to make her husband prostrate in front
of her four times before she would even let him touch her. The
fool! Instead it would be better for him to jump in the sea and
kill himself! For what do you prostrate four times before her?
Questioner: Why does a woman do that?
Dadashri: That is one kind of ego.
Questioner: But what does she get out of it?