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Aptavani-9
Otherwise, people talk without commonsense; they have no
understanding at all.
Have you ever seen a man with commonsense? I have not
seen a single man with commonsense as yet. Big officials ask
me, ‘Have you never seen commonsense in anyone?’ I have to
tell them, ‘From where will they get commonsense? Men fight
with their wives so how can they have commonsense?’ How can
a man with commonsense fight with his wife? How can you fight
with the person you eat, drink and live with? Can you call that
commonsense? Where did you get such commonsense? People
walk around with undue arrogance of, ‘I know something’.
What do they know? And yet men have no idea of what
commonsense is. Everything happens as a result of fruition of
one’s karma.
Even a person the world fears will not refrain from
bickering with his wife. Why does he bicker with his wife? Does
he not quarrel at least three or four times in a twelve-year span?
Questioner: He bickers everyday.
Dadashri: Everyday! So how can you consider him a
man? And then he claims he has sense. Where is the sense? If
he had any sense, he would not fight with his wife. When he has
separation due to difference of opinion with his wife, do you not
realize he lacks commonsense?
Questioner: How can we tell who of the two has less
commonsense?
Dadashri: Can you not know who creates the separation
due to differences in opinion (matbhed) first? Will you not need
some sense?
A man with commonsense will adjust everywhere. He will
adjust even with the person that abuses him, he will say, ‘No
problem, come and sit down.’ So commonsense is required. But
generally one will walk around with a sulking (risavu; upset and