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Aptavani-9
Dadashri: Then you have to ask the ‘worrier’, ‘Why did
you stop? Why did you start in the first place? Now that you
have started, let it go till the loss is recovered.’
…otherwise do not harbor suspicions
‘We’ had understood one thing even before attaining
Gnan. Once I had become suspicious about one man. I felt that
he was going to cheat me. Then I came to a decision that if I
was going to be suspicious then I should be suspicious
throughout my life otherwise I should not do it at all. If you are
going to be suspicious, be that way throughout your life. That is
what the Lord considers awareness. If suspicion is going to end
once it starts, then do not even start it. If you leave Baroda to
go to Kashi-Banaras but return home half way, from Mathura,
it would have been better if you had never left. So from the day
I became suspicious of that man, from that time onwards, I do
not harbor any suspicions. Otherwise I would not have any
more dealings with him. I would not be cheated anymore. If I
wanted to continue being suspicious, then I would avoid worldly
interaction with that person for the rest of my life.
Be cautious but not suspicious
Questioner: We have to maintain awareness when we
are driving, do we similarly not have to maintain awareness in
our worldly dealings, such as ‘If I do it this way, will this man
take advantage of me’? Do we not have to keep that in our
awareness?
Dadashri: You have to be cautious and aware but do not
have suspicions. You do not need to be preoccupied with the
suspicion of ‘what if he takes advantage of me?’ Suspicion is
very harmful. You just have to be cautious. Suspicion will cause
you misery the moment it arises.
Questioner: Often problems arise at work and they are
such that we begin to have suspicions about certain people and
that causes continuous unhappiness within.