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deceit-greed on your own, they will not go away. On the contrary,
two more will sneak in. Therefore, if you go to the One whose
own weaknesses have gone away, the Gnani Purush, then you
will find the solution. There is no solution for the worldly life. The
whole world keeps on wandering; it is caught up in the cycle of
birth and death because one has yet to meet a person who has
swam across the ocean of worldly life and can help others swim
across it too. You have decided you want to swim to the other
shore, have you not?
A Life without Conflict is the Path to Moksha
Dadashri: Now what do those weaknesses of anger-
pride-illusion-greed and attachment-abhorrence (raag-dwesh)
do? What role do they play?
Questioner: They create give-and-take. Anger without
ego base and violent intent (gusso) occurs, and then the awareness
(jagruti) comes that he (the relative-self) has done something
wrong. Then, is it necessary to do pratikraman for it?
Dadashri: If the other person feels hurt because of your
gusso or if it causes him harm in any way, then tell ‘Chandulal,’
‘Hey, Chandulal, do pratikraman. Ask for forgiveness.’
If the other person is egoistic, and if you ask for his
forgiveness by bowing before him, he will tap you on the head
and tell you, ‘Now you have finally come around!’ The heck
with such ‘big’ men! You should cut down your interactions
(vyavahar) with such people. But you must forgive his mistake
(guno). Regardless of whatever intent (bhaav), good or bad, he
has come to you with, you have to decide in advance how you
deal with him. You should not bother with the other person if he
has an awkward and difficult relative-self (prakruti).
If you have seen someone stealing for the last ten years,
if his prakruti is that of stealing, just because he comes and
bows down to you and asks for forgiveness, do you have to