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you. This is not considered pain (dukh). Pain is when they make
a hole here (abdomen) to feed you or a hole here (lower abdomen)
so you can pass urine; that is pain. These poor little babies have
a lot of misery. They cry when they are hurting but they cannot
tell anyone, whereas these fools, they eat nine chapattis (thin
tortilla-like wheat bread) when they sit down to eat and then
they say they are in pain! What can you say to such people?
Should there not be a definition of pain? Should there not be a
definition of happiness? What is happiness?
There is endless happiness in the world but people cannot
experience it. What kind of happiness is there? They get to eat
doodhpaak and maalpuda (Indian delicacies) made with pure
ghee – clarified butter! They get to eat all kinds of things and
yet they are miserable! Go ask the animals what pain and misery
is! Even in humans, go ask people in the lower socioeconomic
status what pain and misery is!
Questioner: But Dada, You tell us that we can eat ghaaris
(very rich, sweet delicacy) but not to become absorbed in its
enjoyment (tanmayakar).
Dadashri: That discussion is a different matter. You can
‘rule your kingdom’ as you see fit. Look at all the happiness that
stands before you and yet you keep complaining about pain!
There is never a reason to clash and mourn (kaan)
needlessly about anything in this world. If a young woman without
children, twenty years old or so, becomes a widow without
anyone to look after her, one may cry and mourn about her. By
kaan I mean there is nothing in this world worth getting into
clash over. And yet there is nothing but clash and clash and
clash, the whole day long. Hey you! What have you learned?
This is not called learning, is it? Should you not learn the theory
of relativity; should you not learn that all this is temporary and
relative (chyuta)?
If you ask any mother-in-law she will tell you, ‘My