Aptavani-6
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Questioner: If we try to appease the other person, will
it not create attachment (raag) in us?
Dadashri: You do not have to appease them like that.
How do you appease a policeman? Does that cause you to have
raag towards the policeman?
Questioner: No.
Dadashri: And also there is no need to appease everyone.
When someone obstructs your path, then one way or another,
appease him and get your work done. It does not take much for
them to obstruct your way. Do not complain or make waves if
someone’s actions hurt you, but instead it is worth settling the
situation somehow, and moving on.
Do Your Duties without the Intent to Hurt
Questioner: If I have to do kashays (anger, pride, deceit
and greed) because of my job, or I end up doing kashays
because of it; does the Self have any consequence?
Dadashri: No, but you do regret your actions afterwards,
don’t you?
Questioner: What should I do if I have to do kashays
in carrying out my duties?
Dadashri: Your point is valid. If complete, saiyam (state
without attachment-abhorrence, without raag-dwesh) does not
remain while carrying out your duty, and if someone gets hurt,
then in the mind you should have the intent, ‘Why does this have
to happen through me? It must not happen.’ This is the inner
intent (bhaav) you should have.
Questioner: But do I not have to carry out my duty?
What do the policemen do; do they not fulfill their duties?
Dadashri: You have to carry out your duty; you have no
choice. Even a policeman has to go and catch two or three