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eating and drinking. The chit spreads out and gets dissipated in
all these things. He acquires merit karmas (punya) with that but
how long is he going to keep reaping the fruits? How long are you
going to keep sowing and reaping the crop, life after life?
Then this man will also give unwarranted advice. Even
when the young son does not ask him, he will say, ‘Wait, wait,
you will make a mistake’, and then gives him advice. The Lord
says you should give advice to your children when they are in
great difficulty. Yes, if they keep asking you, then you have to
answer them. The one moving towards or being the Self, will not
be overly wise and give unsolicited advice. When you are
counting money and your son talks to you about the business,
you will feel it would be better if he talked less. That is how it
should constantly be for You with reference to the Self.
Nevertheless, because your worldly life is still there, you cannot
avoid becoming involved with it. But do not get involved with it
deliberately and of your own volition.
Questioner: If my son lacks experience and I see that he
is going to make a mistake then I will feel like saying something,
will I not?
Dadashri: If your father were still here, he too would
say the same thing about you; that you lack in experience. And
even his father would say the same thing. That is the nature of
the people of India. This is what the Lord considers as being
over-wise. Even a sixty-year-old man will be considered a
child by his own father. How is he a child when he is a
grandfather now?
Amongst our Gujaratis, with such knowledge, when a
father is on his deathbed he will worry about what will become
of his children after his death. These are all bad habits.
Vyavasthit is the doer. You can only hang on to him (your child)
as long as you can see him, is that not so? But what happens
when he is away from you? So give advice or solutions only